Authentic Tantric Massage for Women

In tantric bodywork, the entire body is first lovingly massaged - deeply, and therapeutically. This is the way you’ve always longed to be touched, but never believed that this kind of touch had really existed.

The therapist has no personal needs whatsoever, and he is not doing it to meet his own sexual needs. His joy is tuning in to you and the flow of your energy. Suddenly you find yourself unable to distinguish between body parts - you’ve been experiencing a gradual progression in the massage, which feels absolutely right and natural as every part of your body awakened. He isn’t asking anything from you – you’re not expected to reciprocate in any way, other than to soften and receive any pleasure that happens. He knows how to touch and when hold you, when to stop and do absolutely nothing. He remains still, resting, gently tapping in to an energy and transmitting it back into the core of your body.

This is an honoring, loving full body massage, in which every part of the body is held, massaged, explored and healed. Feelings of repressed sexuality and traumas, as well as low self-esteem, poor body image, (eg. due to abuse, disability, radical breast surgery, etc.) can be treated and healed. You will emerge with a new-found confidence. All the receiver has to do is just relax into the moment and enjoy the healing, the energy shifts. Tantric massage, given with the right intentions, never leaves the person feeling lonely, or empty. It doesn’t try and manipulate, or please. It is profound, emotional and spiritual and heals on a cellular level. The therapist has to be exceptionally experienced, sensitive, confident, with a great degree of emotionally intelligence.

In tantric massage. the empathic presence of a male therapist is in itself a reparative relationship, particularly where there is a history of abuse or traumatic sexual experience, where the quality of the masculine presence creates safety. In this safe space healing can happen.

Tantric Touch - the divine feminine

From its inception, Tantra was radical as it challenged the Indian caste system by its inclusiveness. Moreover, by honoring women, Tantra highlights the female aspect of divinity as integral to the creative/sexual life force. In fact original, authentic Tantra is the worship and cult of the feminine . Tantra is not about separation and limiting life through boundaries. Rather, it is about challenging those boundaries and the accepted social mores.

"Constantly take refuge at my feet, my dear…
Be gracious, beloved, and
Give me pleasure with your diamond scepter.
Look at my three-petaled lotus,
Its center adorned with a stamen.
It is a Buddha paradise, adorned with a red Buddha,
A cosmic mother who bestows
Bliss and tranquility on the passionate.
Abandon all conceptual thought and
Unite with my reclining form;
Place my feet upon your shoulders and look me up and down.
Make the fully awakened scepter
Enter the opening in the center of the lotus.
Move a hundred,thousand,hundred thousand times
In my three-petaled lotus of swollen flesh.
Placing one’s scepter there, offer pleasure to her mind.
Wind, inner wind-my lotus is the unexcelled!
Aroused by the tip of the diamond scepter,
It is red like a bandhuka flower.
...he (man) sees the woman as a goddess
The woman [sees] the man as a god.
By joining the diamond scepter and lotus,
They should make offerings to each other. There is no worship apart from this."
 Candamaharosana-tantra

From the book: Renowned Goddess of Desire:Women, Sex, and Speech in Tantra

“Together with a woman, there (he should) reflect (on the mantra or practice); the two of them together in this way (they do) worship. Without a woman, the practitioner cannot perfect (the mantra) at all. he should mentally evoke (the mantra) together with a woman and together with her, he should offer into the sacrificial fire as well. Without her the practitioner cannot perfect (the mantra) at all. Women are gods; women are the life-breath.”

Celestial Musician Tantra

Desire for Enlightenment and the Feminine in Early Buddhist Myth

The mantra: Om mani padme hum¹, is regarded as one of the most important in Buddhism.^* Volumes have been written by monks and religious leaders throughout the centuries about it, without ever revealing the true meaning of the mantra.

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The human soul has a unique experience with sexuality, perceived within the body. No religion or holy men can replace and occupy our individual human experience of sexuality. The experience is an overwhelming spiritual and physical experience; it needs no bizarre belief system. At the same time the experience is ecstatic and unique between two people. Because of the intimate nature of the sacred and seemingly secret sexuality of humans, a lot of confusion has taken place. This has resulted in euphemisms or nebulous symbols and expressions of sexuality instead of clear speech or words. Thus, since ancient times, people have expressed their joy in the bliss of sexuality in symbols, myths and imagery that are universally recognisable metaphors.

In light of the above it is worth looking at the mantra that the Dalai Lama considers one of the most important in Tibetan Buddhism. The mantra Om mani padme hum originates from ancient Tantric tradition, which has always celebrated female sexuality and the sexual union between the Goddess and Her Divine Consort. The literal translation of the word mani is jewel, the traditional term for the lingam - the male sexual organ. The word padme (lotus flower), is universally known in eastern cultures as the word for the yoni, symbolizing the vulva - the female principle of the sexual union.

There can be little doubt that the original meaning of Om mani padme hum - Hail, the jewel in the lotus - refers to the high esteem in which the harmony of sexual union of male and female was held - fundamental to tantric thought and religious rituals that pre-date Buddhism by thousands of years.

 It is very revealing however, that his holiness the Dalai Lama, who is generally seen as the epitome of humanity and kindness, and who for many people represents true and authentic Buddhism, chooses to interpret this important mantra entirely stripped and deprived of its original meaning: "...Thus the six syllables, OM MANI PADME HUM, mean that in dependence on the practice which is in indivisible union of method and wisdom, you can transform your impure body, speech and mind into the pure body, speech, and mind of a Buddha…”
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Tantric Bodywork

Tantric bodywork teaches us that tantra is where men and women feel worthy of nothing but the best...

...where women understand, by example and accept the gentle teachings their own bodies.

...where men understand how to love and honour women and are loved and adored in return.

...where people aspire to excellence in their sexuality and love relationships, expand and enhance their feelings about sexuality and their sensual nature.

Religious and social conditioning has and is still depriving women of their birthright, to embrace fully their radiant sensuality. Part of the problem is that we live in a culture which worships male energy which has led women who are struggling for recognition, to act in a masculine way disconnecting from the power of their female energy. The power of the feminine is not acknowledged and unconsciously even feared. Women have been driven away from their own bodies and sexuality and often fail to recognise and articulate their own needs, desires, creativity and sensual nature.

The fact is, that we all suffer, men and women, if women feel cut off from important aspects of their internal creative lives and sensuality. Because if aspects of the creative feminine appear inaccessible to women, then this unique feminine creativity is not available to men either and this is a double tragedy.

In tantric bodywork, the entire body is first lovingly massaged - deeply and therapeutically. This is the way you’ve always longed to be touched, but never really believed that this kind of touch had really existed.

This is an honouring, loving, full body massage, in which every part of the body is touched, held, massaged and healed. Feelings of repressed sexuality, traumas, low self-esteem, poor body image, (e.g.: due to abuse, disability, radical breast surgery, etc.) can be treated and healed. You will emerge with a new-found confidence. All the receiver has to do is just relax into the moment and enjoy the healing, the energy shifts. Tantric bodywork, given with the right intentions, never leaves the person feeling lonely, or empty.

 

Here the empathic presence of a male therapist is in itself a reparative relationship, particularly where there is a history of abuse or traumatic sexual experience, where the quality of the masculine presence creates safety. In this safe space healing can happen.

In Conversation - Menstruation, Tantra, Neo-Tantra

... Jane wanted to be reassured, that the session would NOT include meditation, breath-work or intimacy exercises. During the past 2 years, she has spent over a thousand pounds on workshops retreats - angry and fed up with, what she called the "tantra industry" in England, having read books on authentic, original Tantra.

It is true that fundamental aspects of ancient tantra, relating women, remain taboo subjects. Menstruation and menstrual blood has occupied a central place in tantric practice and ritual. This is hardly ever mentioned today, yet just by talking about it, menstrual mythology and iconography for women (and men) can be a liberating, empowering, and healing experience.  (Particularly, as in our culture a negative view of menstruation, social and religious conditioning has left a deep scar on women's psyche and body image.)
   

‘‘Blood is the female (Vama) elixir. Mixed with wine and semen, it is the Absolute.’’

‘‘Sri Sankara said: The first menses appearing in a woman who has lost her virginity is Svayambhu blood. In a maiden born of a married woman and begotten by another man, that which arises is Kunda menses, the substance causing the granting of any desire. Devesi, a maiden begotten by a widow gives rise to Gola menses, which subdues gods. The menses arising in the first period after a virgin becomes a married woman is the all bewildering Svapushpa.’’
‘‘A brahmin goes to heaven by endless washing of the feet and mouth, whereas a person repeatedly making a forehead mark of Kunda, Gola or Udbhava menses destroys various ailments such as leprosy and smallpox and is free from all disease in the same way that a serpent sloughs its skin.’’

Menstruating Dakini

Tantric Massage at the Full Moon Yesterday

Nothing is more transgressive, than the playful unbounded pleasure a woman may take in her own body. Yesterday, during a tantric massage session I have witnessed again, how women's desire have been repressed, as "S" was describing how she has been driven away from her own body, sexuality and nature by emotional abuse and violence.  

Yesterday, as I was holding "S",  she was taking back the power of pleasure, rejoicing in ecstasy,  in tears, blood and moisture. 

The passion and sexuality of women is not essentialist, not bound by taboo, not dependent on the phallus. It is multiple, oceanic, inexhaustible.  Taking pleasure in their own bodies, in what is cyclical, recurring, wet, luscious and irreducible power of the erotic, the liberation of surrender. As a man being part of it and actually bearing witness to this liberation in tantric massage, is a unique experience... 

Your touch...

"Yesterday, late morning a man held my face in his hands :). Strong hands, yet soft and tender. A man's hands on a woman's face can be so very comforting, can be so deeply loving. I felt this peace of understanding, where I knew how blessed I was to have your beautiful hands holding my face. Your heart, your love, your touch caressing me, holding me… I am so eternally grateful for this..." (letter from M.)